Women are not into technical things: they love them! Because besides passionate dedication, the right technique for licking makes the vital difference. It is, so to speak, the tongue that makes the difference - and the climax. There is not necessarily just one perfect technique for every licker and every licked, but there are a few very important things that guarantee many climaxes. So if you consider your oral performance equivalent to a thirsty great dog at the drinking bowl – or if you want to know, why cream puffs are good training material – than check out this licking … reading
What Does "Cunnilingus" Mean?
Cunnilingus is the technical term for oral intercourse that takes place with, around and in the primary female sexual organs - in short: pussy licking. The word is composed of the Latin cunnus for "female pubis" and lingua for "tongue". The ancient name tells us that smart people were crazy about vaginal licking thousands of years ago. Rightly so!
The highly erogenous playground extends from thigh to thigh and from the mons pubis to the anus (by the way, read how to continue here: Annilingus!). And it gets particularly hot from the outer to the inner labia and around the clitoris. The tongue and the lips should unite here to a dynamic All Star team - and even the teeth can be brought into play for a sensually gentle nibbling. Your hands shouldn't forget about breasts and bottoms as well. No matter whether a woman or a man pleases a woman cunnilingually: the multitude of possibilities, sensuality and degrees of hardness satisfies every wish.
Licking Tips: Skillful Cunnilingus
Before going into detail - or into bed, on the kitchen table or on a clearing in the woods - one thing should be clear: to a certain extent Cunnilingus thrives on individual feelings and preferences. Every licking couple needs to get accustomed to it. But before we get to these subtleties, you can use our Basic Tips with guaranteed ecstasy!
Tip 1 - "Cream puff training! ... huh?"
Yes, that's right. Beginners and those who just didn't get the passionate feedback they wanted should practice! And this can be done without a partner: Go to your favourite bakery and treat yourself to a load of cream puffs filled with vanilla cream. Then you bite a hole in the dough and lick out the whole filling with joy: circular, sucking, fast and slow. Not only is this delicious, it also makes you a better licker. This kind of practical experience really helps, because often the tongue tires too quickly on the vagina or there is simply a lack of skill and coordination.
Tip 2 - "Thumbs up for the clitoris"
If you want to stimulate the clitoris orally, place one hand horizontally over the mons pubis so that the tip of the thumb is directly above the clitoris. Build up some pressure with your thumb and pull it slightly upwards, lifting the clitoris and making it more present in front of you. The slight tension also intensifies your licking. You can also place both hands on the clitoris and pull them slightly upwards and outwards with both thumbs - this will reveal all the sacred places even more to you.
Tip 3 - "Drumroll and Grande Finale"
Cunnilingus can be a foreplay - or an independent highlight. And that's why it deserves a little foreplay of its own. Before you even get your tongue close to the labia minora, you should first start a kind of oral drum roll - then she can hardly wait for the Grande Finale! Work your way slowly to the vulva with kisses, little treats and massages from the feet over the thighs. Or from the bottom to the front or from the nipples over the belly button down to the mons pubis. This increases lust, desire and of course blood circulation within the vulva, making it all the more sensitive to oral caresses.
Tip 4 - "Have fun yourself!"
Cunnilingus first and foremost pleases your partner, but your own pleasure should come up not only after, but also during "doing her"! Make sure, for example, that you both take a comfortable position. To be able to hold out long and comfortably is half the performance. Vary your tongue movements and even give your tongue pauses - work with your fingers or exciting toys (link to matching Mystim Toys). Your tongue may be the hero in this act, but after all every great superhero has his sidekick ;-)
And: Pay attention to which spots and movements are well received and which less. Because YOU automatically have more fun when SHE has more fun.
Tip 5 - "Creative & strategic - wild & focused"
Cunnilingus thrives on a sensual game of contrasts and surprising variety!
Your lips can nibble, kiss or even suck lightly. Your tongue can penetrate deeply, tickle easily with its tip or drive along long and slowly. You can use it vertically, horizontally, circularly or quickly and slowly.
Try blowing gently to cool when it gets (too) hot and let yourself go more when it gets too monotonous.
Find your - or rather both of your - master discipline in the multitude of possibilities, keep it until the end and catapult it explosively to its highest peaks.
Six Cunnilingus Positions Everyone Should Know
Basically it is important that both are as comfortable as possible, that they are not tense and that the licker has "free rein". It doesn't really matter whether you approach each other to lick from between your legs, from the front, from behind, sideways, standing, sitting or lying down. The focus is on the details: see our licking tips!
Nevertheless, we have put together the six most popular positions that you should have in your repertoire:
- Clitoris foreplay: She lies on her back and keeps her legs closed - the licker only has access to the clitoris. This makes you want more. Much more!
- Sideways: She lies on her left or right side - optimal if one side of her vulva is stimulated more intensively (it does happen, just try it out!).
- Sitting: She sits comfortably and with her legs apart on a chair/table, etc. - the licker kneels/sits in front of her.
- Standing up: She leans against a wall - the licker kneels in front of her: the goody at eye level. Next Level: She puts one leg over the shoulder of the licker.
- "Doggy-Lingus“: Standing on all fours she stretches her vulva expectantly upwards - the tongue comes from behind.
- Facesitting: The legendary ride on the face! You'll find the FAQs in the next paragraph.
Facesitting FAQs That Are Important
Facesitting, also known as queening, brings women into their personal kingdom of orgasms. This is what one should know about it:
"Should I really sit on the face of my partner?"
No, not at first. This can lead to injuries, shortness of breath and thus to enormous loss of fun. The licked one should lean mainly on her legs, not on the face. If you prefer (light) riding, you are welcome to gently explore the limits.
Facesitting fetish facts:
In BDSM, intensive sitting up during facesitting is called " fullweight ". With "Reverse" the licker looks directly into the anus, with "Drowning" you even press your licker under water and with "Asphyx" the woman is seated so intensively that you play with intentional breathing reduction. With "Jeanssitting" even the pants stay on - this is more about dominance.
"Is facesitting exhausting?"
It's so much fun that you don't really notice any effort.
Tip: It is especially rewarding when the licked one can hold on to something. This relieves and loosens the pelvis at the same time.
"Will my partner leak into my face and mouth?"
If you are good, probably yes :). Talk about this openly and take small breaks to dry off if necessary.
Tip: For quickies with strangers and the containment of body fluids in the mouth (if you absolutely don't like it), dental dams are a perfect helper: you lick sensory real, but remain "clean".
Sex Toys And CO At Cunnilingus
The tongue is one of the most awesome sex toys of all time - but it does need a break from time to time. However, sex toys can be integrated not only as break fillers, but also as teammates! E-Stim-Toys are especially exciting: Sex toys that turn your pubic areas into pulsating pleasure zones with lustfully dosed current impulses - from foreplay to multiple orgasms.
These three toys should be in one' s lick repertoire:
- Buttplug with E-Stim: A wonderful companion in the back-ground while you pay your oral attention to the vagina. Gently dosed, it won't steal the show, but will make your performance unforgettable. Be prepared for encores ...!
- E-Stim Vibrator: When your tongue takes a break, it comes into the game. Or as a tingling foreplay - and your tongue earns the (moaning) praises afterwards.
- Gloves with E-Stim: For thrilling massages and caresses during cunnilingus. A trembling full body experience - and your tongue delves deep into the epicenter of pleasure. Caution: Do not massage with the E-Stim gloves near the heart or on the head - neither with your partner, nor close to your own head while licking! Belly, legs and bottom are safe regions and incredibly sensual.
Developed A Taste For It? Hygiene Tips!
The feeling of vaginal cleanliness is different for different people. Both as active and as passive part. Before cunnilingus, make sure your vagina is clean and that you are not suffering from itching or other symptoms of a vaginal infection.
When it comes to licking, there are very diverse likes and dislikes. Some like a light body odor or sweat because it's the intimate smell of the loved one that makes them horny - for others it's a complete no-go.
Also the taste of the vagina and the arising body fluids can be different. But this can be influenced well: Avoiding alcohol, cigarettes, garlic and onions as well as intensive spices helps against unpleasant smells and tastes. Sweet fruit juices made from pineapple or blueberries provide sweet flavours (this also applies to sperm, guys!).
And now: Savor, have fun and get licking!